Friday, April 08, 2011
How to Handle That Criticism
Well, okay. I knew something like this was going to happen eventually.
Yesterday was fun. I made appearances on several blogs, and I connected with a lot of neat people who seemed to be truly interested in what I had to say, and in my book.
There's always one...
So maybe I'm overreacting, but there in the midst of all the lovely comments on a blog that has over 3,000 followers, was somebody pointing out what in their mind was a terrible flaw. I tried to make my blog post encouraging, positive, and while I obviously hoped it might garner some interest in my book, I really felt that what I had to say was important. And a lot of people seemed to resonate with it. So there within all the positive comments from nice folks telling me why they would read my book, is one telling me why people won't.
I took his point. He's not wrong. But I'm not sure it was necessary to comment in that way on that particular blog.
Truth be told, I got a little steamed.
Thankfully I have enough sense not to react. He had his say, and if that makes him sleep better, woo hoo. But this got me thinking. You can't please all the people all of the time. You've heard the saying, right?
As more people read my book, there will be reviews that, for lack of a better word, stink. Nothing I can do about it. Every author has them. Anyone who's in the public eye in any arena is fair game.
The question is, how will I handle them? Am I within my rights to fire back in defense of what I've written? Sure. Will I? Probably not. Here's the thing. I believe there are people out there who simply don't know how to be positive. They're the ones who always see the glass half empty. Refuse to see the silver lining. Know the sun is shining but walk around with an umbrella because sooner or later, it's going to rain.
Whether we're being slammed for our writing, our faith or the color of our skin, does it be-hove us to accept an adverse opinion as simply that or get up on our own soapbox and start spouting off an angry retort that may in essence only draw more attention to the negative comment in the first place?
It was an interesting lesson for me. I'm not sure I'll always be able to sit tight and keep my mouth shut. But I hope that whatever my response, under whatever circumstance, I will remember who I am and what I stand for.
All things will fade away, but these three remain.
Faith. Hope. Love.
How will YOU respond?
Posted by Catherine West at 12:00 AM